Designer, author and instructor Tian Connaughton shares the following insights about you and your crochet.

Embracing Selfish Crochet

by Tian Connaughton

Does this sound familiar? Have you said this or heard it said? Can you relate?

In a world that glorifies productivity and selflessness, taking time for oneself can often feel like a luxury reserved for the privileged few. For many individuals, especially women, hobbies like crochet are viewed as costly and indulgent distractions rather than essential forms of self-care. The pervasive societal perception that crochet is a frivolous activity further compounds feelings of guilt and inadequacy among those who find solace in the rhythmic motion of hook and yarn.

At its core, crocheting is a form of self-care—a refuge from the chaos of everyday life where individuals can find peace, purpose, and creative fulfillment. The therapeutic benefits of crochet are well-documented, with studies suggesting that engaging in repetitive, rhythmic activities like crocheting can reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. For many, the act of creating something beautiful with their own two hands serves as a powerful reminder of their inherent worth and potential for growth.

Yet, despite its numerous benefits, many individuals still struggle with feelings of guilt and selfishness when it comes to prioritizing their own crochet projects. The societal stigma surrounding women's hobbies, including crochet, often leads individuals to question the validity of their interests and desires, and the value of their time. However, it's essential to recognize that self-care is not selfish—it's necessary for maintaining mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

In a world that constantly demands more of us, it's easy to lose sight of our own needs and desires. But by embracing our love for crochet and prioritizing our own well-being, we can reclaim our sense of identity and purpose in a society that often overlooks our contributions. One way to combat feelings of isolation and guilt is to connect with others who share our passion for crochet. Whether it's joining a local crafting group, participating in online communities, or attending crochet workshops and events, engaging with like-minded individuals can provide a sense of belonging and support. 

So, to all the individuals who feel guilty about taking time to crochet, remember this: your happiness is not a luxury—it's a necessity. You don’t have to earn your self-care or wait to feel worthy. You are deserving right now. So go ahead, pick up your hook and yarn, and crochet your way to a happier, healthier you. After all, you deserve it!

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